Valentine's Day is a sham. If you are not in a loving relationship on Feburary 14th, all you are left with is a whopping amount of Seasonal Affective Disorder and that dreaded feeling of utter singlehood. Sure, being single has its perks (that empowering sense of individuality and freedom, that beauty of unattachment and self-discovery, and the fact that you don't have time to date because you're too busy doing more important things like making a difference in the world), but being in love is the whole reason why we make art and why movies are so damn good. I can be the happiest single girl in the world and Valentines Day can make it all come crashing down.
So here's a video to make you chuckle or maybe even cry in self pity because the person you love doesn't love you back. This is a song I wrote with spoken word artist, Leonard Cervantes, about unrequited love called "I Hate Earl".
Don't forget that the best part of Valentines Day is that you can call up your best friend and laugh about how ridiculous relationships can be. And you can treat yourself to something you like because you deserve it. And while that relationship didn't happen like you wanted it to, the right relationship is still out there. So don't spend your time worrying about when you'll have it. Spend this time eating ice cream on the couch and wallowing with your best friend. This is the one day a year you're allowed to complain and there's nothing wrong with it.
Relationships are heart-breaking and hilarious. With time comes context and perspective. I'd love to hear your poems, songs, stories about heartbreak. Send it to us at email@example.com and we will put it up on our blog!
Happy freaking Valentine's Day.
- Post by Elena Juatco, SExT Creative Facilitator
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